Stress: not so silent symptom

We have all heard the word ‘stress’ bandied about. Some alternative words or phrases are:

Uptight
Nervous tension
Worrying

Is being stressed a good thing or a bad thing? It has been proved that any change in your life, whether good or bad can cause you stress. The Journal of Psychosomatic Research published a scale of Stressful Situations in 1967. This was adapted from the ‘Social Readjustment Rating Scale’ by Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe. Eg losing your job on the scale of stress is 45 while starting a new job is 35 so both can be stressful and cause you worry.

What are the signs of being stressed?

A person who is depressed is also stressed.

May become emotional and tearful, likely to cry at the slightest thing that goes wrong.
A lack of desire to do anything. Sometimes eating or getting washed and dressed may seem like too much trouble.
The sufferer may withdraw from life and stay in the home, having no desire to socialise or meet other people.

Quite often the person will be worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet. For example, fear of losing their job. Or a partner or spouse is ill and the spouse worries about them dying, and how will they cope? In a way worry is actually ‘fear’. Worry comes first before stress, then stress causes worry. It’s a vicious circle. It is fear of what may happen. The old acronym for ‘fear’ is false evidence appearing real.’ In other words, quite often it turns out that there was no need to worry in the first place. Telling the sufferer to pull themselves together is of no help. The person suffering from sStress or depression is not thinking rationally. Their ability to think things through has definitely deserted them. Stress is a fact. Ignoring it is not going to make it go away.

So what does the person suffering from stress want or need?

He or she will probably be helped more by someone outside the family. Family or friends are often too close to the situation to be objective. While stress in itself is not read more