Changing roles
Some couples find that taking on the role of carer and the person cared for can feel a bit like becoming a parent and child. Finding ways to adapt to a new model of partnership will help you to ensure you fulfil your relationship. It's important that you are both able to maintain a sense of independence. To ensure you are taking advantage of all opportunities to develop your partnership, you could sit down together and create a list of possibilities, either things you'd like to continue doing or anything new you'd like to try.Friends and lovers
For most couples, physical intimacy is a crucial part of the relationship. A common misconception is that the onset of illness or disability automatically means the end of any kind of sexual relationship. But this needn't be the case. Many couples enjoy finding new ways to be sensual together and regain physical intimacy. Assuming your GP has no medical objections, you can experiment with a range of sexual activities and positions that will suit you both. Some couples have found that the increased creativity required in their sex life has actually made it better than ever before! There are a wide range of medical interventions available today to help with sexual problems, so do speak to your GP about potential options. And remember, even if you can't have sexual intercourse together anymore, you can still be sensual. Touch is an essential part of being human, so take every opportunity to get a little closer.Sources of Help
Many couples find that working through their problems together brings them closer. Some are able to do this on their own, but many others choose to consider counselling. Relate has been offering relationship counselling and support for over 60 years. As well as offering face-to-face appointments, Relate has a number of options for individuals and couples who are unable to attend one of their centres.(published with permission in writing from:http://www.carers.org)
